Thank God.
Firstly:
We thank God, Glory be to Him, for guiding you and guiding you to the path of repentance, and we ask Him, Glory be to Him, to complete His blessings and well-being upon you, and to grant you steadfastness in piety and guidance, so increase your remembrance of God and thank Him, and say: “There is no power nor strength except in God,” for all hearts are in His hands. Glory be to Him, who guides to Him those who He wills, and He guides to Him those who turn to Him.
Therefore, the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, always invoked this meaning. On the authority of Abdullah, he said: “The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, would often swear: No, by the One who turns hearts Narrated by Al-Bukhari (7391).
On the authority of Shahr bin Hawshab, he said: I said to Umm Salamah: O Mother of the Believers, what was the most frequent supplication of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, if you had it? She said: His most frequent supplications were: heart mold set my heart on your religion .
She said: So I said: O Messenger of God; Why do I multiply your supplications: heart mold set my heart on your religion?
He said: O Umm Salamah, there is no human being except that his heart is between two of God’s fingers, so whoever wishes remains, and whoever wishes deviates. Narrated by Al-Tirmidhi (3522), and he said: “A good hadith.”
secondly:
The basic principle regarding declaring a sin openly is that it is forbidden, and the ruling on that was previously mentioned in the answer to question No.: (3365).
However, an exception to this principle is cases such as when there is a benefit in mentioning the sin, and we have given examples of that in the answer to question No.: (235519).
Third:
It does not appear to us that it is permissible for you to write your story and the sin you committed; Even if it is for the purpose of giving advice and educating those who are walking on the same path and about to fall into the same situation as I did; We do not think that you should do that, nor that this is a license for you to do so; How many people see stories like these, in a different way, just as they see stories of murder, theft, and other evils. Then they are exhausted, they do not repent, and they do not return!!
Then there is a possibility that he will be guided to know you, even if only one of the people, just as a person falls into forgetfulness and heedlessness, so he may mention a particular part of that story, then declare in another context that that detail happened to him; The story in which you were blinded to yourself is linked to what happened.
In any case; There is a possibility that these stories and events that you narrate will be a reason for your scandal, and God has covered you. The rational person does not deceive himself and his honor, all this deception; For the sake of an imagined interest.
The seriousness of this behavior is confirmed if your sins contain any of the immoral acts that young people are attracted to. If this is mentioned and spread, it will cause major corruption.
Whoever is not satisfied with the Qur’an’s sermons and its exhortations, it will not turn him away from immoral things: people’s news, their stories, and the outcome of their affairs.
On the authority of Musab bin Saad, on the authority of his father, he said: “The Qur’an was revealed to the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, and he recited it to them for a period of time, and they said: O Messenger of God, if only You told us a story, so God revealed: These are the verses of the clear Book [يوسف: 1] Until he said: We tell you the best stories [يوسف: 3] So the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, recited it to them for a while, and they said: O Messenger of God, if you had told us, then God revealed: God sent down the best hadith as a similar book. [الزمر: 23] Verse, all of this they are commanded with the Qur’an.” Khallad said: He added to it when they said: O Messenger of God, remind us, so God revealed Has not the time come for those who believe that their hearts should be humbled at the remembrance of God? [الحديد: 16].
Narrated by Ibn Hibban (6209), and Al-Arna’ut said in his commentary on it: “Its chain of transmission is strong.” Al-Albani said: “It is true.”
The scholar Al-Tahir Ibn Ashour says: “The spread of news of immoral acts among those who believe in truth or lies is morally corrupt. What deters people from corruption is their fear of it occurring, their frowning, and their hatred of its bad reputation, and that is what distracts their minds from remembering it, or even doing it little by little, until it is forgotten. Its forms are erased from the souls, and if the word spreads among the nation about the occurrence of some immorality, thoughts remind it, and the impact of its news on the ears is lessened, thus creeping into the souls is complacency about its occurrence, and the lightness of its impact on the ears, so the evil souls will soon begin to commit it. Talking about it: it becomes popular.
This extends to the fact that spreading immorality causes harm and damage to people, harm of varying amounts, despite the varying reports of truth and lies. End quote from “Al-Tahrir wa Al-Tanweer” (18/185).
The scholar Sheikh Muhammad bin Saleh Al-Uthaymeen says in an answer to a question: “What I see is that it is obligatory to conceal it[that is, the stories of those who repent]and I see that a woman who has repented is not permissible to reveal that, and it is not permissible for anyone to publish this, because the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said: (All When my nation will be healthy, except for those who speak out, they said: Who are they? He said: A man commits a sin in the morning by speaking about what he did.[،وأرىأنالتيتابتلايجوزلهاأنتبوحبذلك،ولايجوزلأحدأنينشرهذا؛لأنالنبيصلىاللهعليهوسلمقال:(كلأمتيمعافىإلاالمجاهرون،قالوا:منهم؟قال:الرجليذنبفيصبحبتحدثبمافعل)
What is the benefit of saying: A girl went out with a young man and he did that to her, then she regretted and repented?
Doesn’t this make the matter easier for the listeners and readers?
That is why we see that this reasoning is very wrong, erroneous, and not permissible.
As for what God Almighty mentioned regarding Adam’s sin, its explanation, and the like, this is what God Almighty mentioned, and He has the right to do whatever He wants. As for us exposing the servants of God, then we must make the matter easy for them.
Do you know that this is the first thing a person hears: a woman went out with someone and he did something to her? He feels very, very proud, his skin shivers, and his hair stands on end. If it is read in the hands of people, it is very insulting. Does every woman who does this thing grant her repentance?! Maybe you do it and not repent.
That is why I think that if you see something like this, cut out the paper that contains this story, otherwise erase it completely, and praise be to God. If you miss five riyals in the remover, this does not matter. End quote from “Liqa’ al-Baab al-Maftooh” (100/26).
God knows
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